Taking Responsibility VS Taking Control

Dear Learners,

My father recently sent an article to me titled “Take Responsibility For Your Life”, it is a motivational speech given by Chris Ross, and you may listen to the audio clip here.

If you are the type to play the blame game,
To play victim,
“Bad things always happen to me”
“I’m not where I want to be because of this person or because of this event”
If you are this type of person, you will never get on in life.

Taking responsibility doesn’t mean relinquishing control of your life.
It means taking control.
If someone is stepping over you, 
If a circumstance keeps pulling you back, 
Be able to see it for what it is!
and take MASSIVE ACTION to eliminate that person, or thing from your life.

It means accepting that you ABSOLUTELY played a part in all the negatives in your life to this point, and rather than complain and moan about what went wrong, FIGURE OUT HOW TO FIX IT.

What can I do NOW to beat this problem
What can I do NOW to create a life of SUCCESS, a life of ABUNDANCE.
What are the SUCCESSFUL people doing right now and how can I emulate their actions to MIRROR their success.

Taking responsibility is not the same as taking control of your environment. It is about controlling your reactions / response; that’s why it’s response-ability.

I think the best response is to acknowledge that there is no control over things outside of the Self and how others act.

That response is a form of wise humility, knowing the limits of our own capabilities and then working to improve from there, regardless of how other people react to you, and despite your environmental changes.

Those who seek control will find chaos, but those who understand that chaos is the pattern of the universe will find solutions in your own response.

You cannot control and change a ball’s direction once it is already thrown in your direction, you can only respond by hitting back, or dodging it.

A fool cries that he cannot stop the ball and wishes it would not hit him, then gets hit anyway; A wise man sees the reality and knows to instantly seek the right response regardless of how much control he has over the situation.

This, my proteges, is the wisdom of response-ability.

 

6 basic tips for better online security, from TED speaker James Lyne

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In today’s talk, Lyne talks cybercrime, revealing some of the new methods that hackers and malicious code writers are using to grab our data. And he shows how we accidentally share that data — without even realizing it. [ted_talkteaser id=1820]For example, did you know that most smartphones embed GPS data in the photos we take? He asks, “As we play with these shiny new toys, how much are we trading off convenience for privacy and security?”

We asked Lyne, a cybersecurity specialist with SophosLabs, to share some simple tips to greatly improve your computer security. Below, here’s what he had to say:

Security is becoming a very complex topic with many different actors and issues — the recent NSA revelations adding to the pile of discussion. But an astonishing number of cybercrime attacks still play on some basic — and preventable — failures to protect personal data.

If…

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Petaling Jaya Kids Holiday Speech & Drama Courses/Classes

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Give kids the advantage to learn WHILE they play. Fun Kids Holiday Classes Next Week ! – Speech & Drama, Public Speaking courses for ages 4 all the way to 18. In collaboration with @Kelana Jaya Cambridge English For Life. CLICK HERE TO Sign Up Now – Your mind is the safest & worthiest investment you’ll ever make.

Fear Fighter Public Speaking Course 22nd September 2012 intake

Ss..s…ssstop stuttering and get that tongue untied. Take this weekend to conquer your fears of public speaking and do well for life.

Enrol for the Fear Fighter class now!

 

Date: Starting from this Saturday the 22nd till Sunday the 23rd Sept in Tropicana.

 

Time: 10.30 am till 4.00 pm with 1 hour lunch break in between.

Venue: Studio, LG floor, Tropicana Golf & Country Resort , Jalan Kelab Tropicana   (Take the lift to the left of the reception and head down one floor, Studio is to the right of the dance/Taekwando gym.

Price: RM 700


Discount : 50% off each student’s course fee if enrolling as a group of 3 or more.

Please email – info@eloquenceacademy.com for more information.

 

50% discount individual

How To Write A Speech – WikiHow

Good Day To You,

As I am always writing speeches nowadays, it’s always good to review the basics of speech structure and story writing. The main difference is, your material will be presented by you verbally instead of read, So I prefer speech writing because I don’t really worry about the exact grammar but concentrate on making points simple, well explained and entertaining.

http://www.wikihow.com/Category:Speechwriting

Another one : http://www.wikihow.com/Write-a-Speech

Each article has excellent tips if you ever have a case of Writer’s Block.

New batch of Cool Communicators

We are happy to announce the graduation of a new batch of Cool Communicators. From Left to Right: Eddie learnt the importance of networking and preparing an impressive introduction, Terrence achieved a newfound confidence. Syazana learnt the great habit of giving compliments to others and May learnt negotiation skills that immediately got her a better paid job the next day! We are so happy to be making a positive difference in each of their lives. Terrence has returned for the Fear Fighter class too and we look forward to share more with you all 😀

Challenge, Change & Contribute.

Jane McGonigal: The game that can give you 10 extra years of life

Jane McGonigal (which sounds suspiciously similar to Harry Potter’s Professor McGonagall)  may have found a very real type of magic. One that extends a person’s life!

Jane sets up a very simplistic but effective framework. She went through an unfortunate accident that left her with a concussion that caused side effects such as headaches, memory-loss, disorientation, dizziness and other head trauma related symptoms. From this, she was put to bedrest and forbidden to play games (tough for a game designer), read books, watch TV or anything that would stimulate her mind as it would aggravate her symptoms.

She began to lose her will to live, without her raison d’être, she soon desired death to claim her.

It is in these horrible moments that genius strikes. Jane decides to create a simplistic game called Superbetter :

https://www.superbetter.com/

It is based on the studies conducted on human life span extending activities. The statistics are extensive yet it is simple enough to understand at face value. Firstly, she defines the top 5 regrets of those on their deathbeds.

  1. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.
  2. I wish I’d stayed in touch with my friends.
  3. I wish I allowed myself to be happier.
  4. I wish I had the courage to express my true self.
  5. I wish that I’d led a life true to my dreams and not what others expected of me.

Jane proposes that games can actually facilitate better relationship management, social interaction and even confidence boosters. Personally I think that the next generation can relate so well to games, that it is second nature for them to accept an imaginary framework to view their personal challenge.

She designed Superbetter to allow normal people to adopt a secret identity, complete small tasks or challenges that improves one’s confidence, practice their willpower and even train positive reinforcement and build a social support system. This helps them battle their own chosen obstacle such as cancer, terminal diseases or post-traumatic disorder. It became post-traumatic growth!

She then takes the same phenomenon to improve a person’s survival resilience, and made them the goal practices that are described here for you work on everyday:

  • Physical Resilience: Such as holding your hands above your head for 5 seconds, every moment your body is moving, you are improving your health.
  • Willpower Resilience: This could be as simple as snapping your fingers for 50 times which improves your brains determination
  • Emotional Resilience: Googling for an image of Baby _______ (type of favorite animal) which invokes powerful positive emotions.
  • Social Resilience: Text, email or facebook a quick thank you as appreciation to boost oxytocin in your bloodstream  (the trust hormone)

If you’ve just done these four simple actions. You’ve just gained 7 minutes of extra life. If you do this daily, you are statistically likely to live 10 years longer than you would have if you did nothing about it. On top of that, you will avoid having the top regrets of someone on the deathbed because you have been spending your time doing just the opposite.

 Cest Magnifique!

Is strength your weakness?

Is strength your weakness?.

This is such an important idea because it is rarely considered by many. For example my mother is really good at off the cuff/impromptu speaking and she mainly relies on that. She tries to prepare sometimes but considers it unimportant as she can always come up with something new on the spot anyway. Often entertaining but off-topic.

I agree that it is important for us to be aware that over-relying on our strengths sometimes makes us complacent and creates the tortoise and the hare situation. If we cease to improve and rest on our laurels, we may end up the laggard.

Midday Motivation | One Act Of Anger Can Ruin A Lifetime Of Hard Work

“When you fight fire with fire, you end up with ashes.” – Author Unknown, The author had to learn the hard way.

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“When you fight fire with fire, you end up with ashes.” – Author Unknown

You can’t control what people do but you can control how you react. There are countless people who are dead or in prison because they acted out of anger. If you’re mad about something, walk away, give yourself space to think and heal BEFORE you respond. One act of anger can ruin your entire life.

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The Target Audience

Bullseye!

Hello My Target Audience. You’ve just been struck in the head by my metaphorical arrow. Yes, every word I have typed here is meant for your eyes, and I want you to understand the process I went through to pick you out of the 6 (soon to be 7) billion other humans on earth.

What is a Target Audience?

Well, it is typically a marketing/communications term that defines who is meant to receive your message. For most marketing & sales pitch, the target audience is the people most likely to purchase your product.

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This means that a lot of research goes into understanding your hobbies, habits, thoughts, insights, demographics and response. As a public speaker though, it is an advantage to understand the trends and insights of your audience upon sight.

To give you a clearer picture, Roy Morgan Research, an Australian Marketing research company breaks down their  thoughts, their aspirations, self-images, behaviour and more into 10 neat segments and called them Value Segments – CLICK FOR LINK

The knowledge of a target audience comes into play when you are actually speaking in public spaces without a captive audience. You’ll need to attract a certain group for your message. If you are speaking on women’s rights, then obviously your first targets would be female. If you’re nearby a school, then your tone would be younger and lighter. When speaking to adults, it would probably be a little more serious and passionate.

Your Speech begins from your target audience. Always know who you are speaking to because the best speeches  can be lost on the wrong listeners. You pick your target audience base on your message’s objective.

The Message Objective & The Target Audience.

The message is the main point of the story, your speech is meant to motivate or to change their attitudes towards a certain subject, to express a personal experience or even to impart knowledge on a specific subject.

Your target audience depends on the message objective. For example, if you are trying to promote child abuse awareness. You would be able to craft a speech targeting Parents or guardians, a speech to inform children what child abuse means, or a speech to promote active campaigning & volunteering amongst young adults.

As you can see. There is definitely more than one way to skin a cat.