The Face & The Eyes : Where to Look?

Good Morning Malaysia,

It is Eloquence Academy Body Language Awareness Week and today we will be looking at your eyes and face.

Does maintaining eye contact make you feel uncomfortable ?
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Eye contact says a lot to both the speaker and the listener.
It shows respect, sincerity, interest , understanding and engaged communication

I found that looking into a person’s face can already feel invasive to some, so direct eye contact can feel much too close and intimate, if you are afraid of what the other might see in you. The fear of rejection and criticism causes us to divert and hide our gaze.

Remember to avoid looking aloof by tilting your chin too high up. Maintain level eye contact and a straight neck. Palms calmly folded in the front and a relaxed focus on the topic, with periodic acknowledgement of the listener.
A great trick to maintain consistent and comfortable eye contact is by looking at the bridge of the other person’s nose. Try it with a friend and ask if they can tell that you are not looking at their eyes.

Here are more tips on the types of eye contact direction, to establish your opinion of your listener.

These are invaluable techniques to get your first impression and starting conversation right. If done right, this allows you to earn trust within a matter of 7 seconds.

General Public Speaking Tips

Most people suffer from stage-fright, terrified of speaking in front of a large crowd. Many of us worry about how we would look in front of so many people. This makes it more difficult for a speaker to deliver a strong, confident presentation. Fortunately, there are so many ways that could help a person overcome his fear of public speaking, allowing us to deliver a strong, convincing speech.

To overcome this fear, one should consider taking up public speaking lessons. This is beneficial since you would be thought about the key principles related to effective public speaking. Moreover, you will also be taught simple tips and techniques that will boost your self-esteem when facing a huge audience.

In a public speaking lesson, you should expect the instructor to teach these basic principles in public speaking:

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  • Dress to impress – One the most important things you should note in public speaking classes is how to dress when making a presentation. The first thing your audience would notice and pay attention to, is the way you carry yourself and the clothes you are wearing. You should dress in a manner that speaks of professionalism, confidence and neatness. Like buying a product, we decide the quality of a product based on its packaging.
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taken from: (blog.shiftspeakertraining.com)

  • Bond to the crowd – How to bond or connect to the crowd? This is one of the most essential elements in public speaking. A sense of connection could be simply done with making strong eye contact to the audience. This shows your audience that you are speaking directly to them with authority and confidence. Yet there are tendencies to look away when we are thinking or trying to remember something, and sometimes, we forget to spread our eye contact evenly across the crowd, making some feel ignored

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  • Limited and organized presentation – You should remember proper organization of your presentation. Most speakers tend to stuff their presentation full of details and figures. This can really confuse your audience and make them lose sight of your main points. Having too much to speak about can also force a speaker to lose time and even worse, lose your audience’s attention.

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  • Proper Tone – Another thing that should be covered is the proper volume and correct pronunciation. This is the common mistake for most speakers causing his audience to be unable to discern what he is trying to convey. This is can render your presentation ineffective. Public speaking classes will teach you to use your voice as an instrument and project it in a clear, articulate way. Estimate and adjust the tone appropriately, according to the venue where your presentation will take place. If you are close to the crowd in a small room, it would be silly to shout, so you should use a low tone of voice and speak with clarity. In addition, you should always keep on speaking at an appropriate pace; avoid speaking too fast or too slow so that your listeners can follow.

This is another short lesson brought to you by The Eloquence Academy!

Youth’s Speech & Drama 8 Days Course

We know that the confidence to communicate and networking opens doors for success. Eloquence Academy hence starts this 8-Saturdays Youths Speech & Drama Course to let the children begin to build the confidence towards conversational skills. The activities for Speech leads to an understanding of how one can present and do speeches with good skill. Enhance their natural abilities with the learning of Body Language for dramatic emphasis, keeping an audience enthralled will be easy.

Choose your child’s path of self-improvement today by registering now.


Young Eloquent Speakers (Ages 10 – 18)  – Speech & Drama Course

Venue: Unit 10.5 ,Block B, Plaza Mont Kiara
Date: 8 Saturdays – starting 13th April, 2013
Time: 11 am to 12.30 pm
Rate: RM 500 per child
Tel: 012-3858766 (Ms. Laychi Low)
eloquence.academy@gmail.com
http://www.eloquenceacademy.com

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Petaling Jaya Kids Holiday Speech & Drama Courses/Classes

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Give kids the advantage to learn WHILE they play. Fun Kids Holiday Classes Next Week ! – Speech & Drama, Public Speaking courses for ages 4 all the way to 18. In collaboration with @Kelana Jaya Cambridge English For Life. CLICK HERE TO Sign Up Now – Your mind is the safest & worthiest investment you’ll ever make.

Fear Fighter Public Speaking Course 22nd September 2012 intake

Ss..s…ssstop stuttering and get that tongue untied. Take this weekend to conquer your fears of public speaking and do well for life.

Enrol for the Fear Fighter class now!

 

Date: Starting from this Saturday the 22nd till Sunday the 23rd Sept in Tropicana.

 

Time: 10.30 am till 4.00 pm with 1 hour lunch break in between.

Venue: Studio, LG floor, Tropicana Golf & Country Resort , Jalan Kelab Tropicana   (Take the lift to the left of the reception and head down one floor, Studio is to the right of the dance/Taekwando gym.

Price: RM 700


Discount : 50% off each student’s course fee if enrolling as a group of 3 or more.

Please email – info@eloquenceacademy.com for more information.

 

50% discount individual

How To Write A Speech – WikiHow

Good Day To You,

As I am always writing speeches nowadays, it’s always good to review the basics of speech structure and story writing. The main difference is, your material will be presented by you verbally instead of read, So I prefer speech writing because I don’t really worry about the exact grammar but concentrate on making points simple, well explained and entertaining.

http://www.wikihow.com/Category:Speechwriting

Another one : http://www.wikihow.com/Write-a-Speech

Each article has excellent tips if you ever have a case of Writer’s Block.

New batch of Cool Communicators

We are happy to announce the graduation of a new batch of Cool Communicators. From Left to Right: Eddie learnt the importance of networking and preparing an impressive introduction, Terrence achieved a newfound confidence. Syazana learnt the great habit of giving compliments to others and May learnt negotiation skills that immediately got her a better paid job the next day! We are so happy to be making a positive difference in each of their lives. Terrence has returned for the Fear Fighter class too and we look forward to share more with you all 😀

Challenge, Change & Contribute.

Cool Communicator & Fear Fighter Classes

A pleasant day to you,

The Eloquence Academy proudly announces the ongoing classes of Cool Communicator & Fear Fighter in the next two weekends. There is still 2 or 3 spaces available for each class and the time table is as follows:

Cool Communicator:

This course enables you to keep your cool when the spotlight’s on you. Besides a more confident self in communication and keeping an audience entralled, one is able to use their gifting and strength to finally be at ease in any social situation.

For More Info On Cool Communicator Click Here

Time: 10:30 am till 4:00 pm

Days: Sat 21st July & Sun 22nd July (2012)

Location: LG Studio, Tropicana Golf & Country Club.

Contact: 012 3858766 – Mdm Laychi

Email: info@eloquenceacademy.com

Course Fee: RM 700 per student.

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Fear Fighter:

(Fear of Public Speaking). Understand what FEAR really is and why the stage gets you weak in the knees. This course is designed to get you on the path of breaking those chains of FEAR with inner strength. Goal setting, teamwork and practice. For More Info On Fear Fighter Click Here

10:30 am till 4:00 pm,

Days: Sat 28th July & Sun 29th July (2012)

Location: LG Studio, Tropicana Golf & Country Club.

Contact: 012 3858766 – Mdm Laychi

Email: info@eloquenceacademy.com

Course Fee: RM 700 per student.

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We look forward to seeing your fresh faces joining us. Remember, communication skills are one of the few daily used skills that are transferable from home to the office and even in your personal life. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

As always, it has been a pleasure.

Jane McGonigal: The game that can give you 10 extra years of life

Jane McGonigal (which sounds suspiciously similar to Harry Potter’s Professor McGonagall)  may have found a very real type of magic. One that extends a person’s life!

Jane sets up a very simplistic but effective framework. She went through an unfortunate accident that left her with a concussion that caused side effects such as headaches, memory-loss, disorientation, dizziness and other head trauma related symptoms. From this, she was put to bedrest and forbidden to play games (tough for a game designer), read books, watch TV or anything that would stimulate her mind as it would aggravate her symptoms.

She began to lose her will to live, without her raison d’être, she soon desired death to claim her.

It is in these horrible moments that genius strikes. Jane decides to create a simplistic game called Superbetter :

https://www.superbetter.com/

It is based on the studies conducted on human life span extending activities. The statistics are extensive yet it is simple enough to understand at face value. Firstly, she defines the top 5 regrets of those on their deathbeds.

  1. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.
  2. I wish I’d stayed in touch with my friends.
  3. I wish I allowed myself to be happier.
  4. I wish I had the courage to express my true self.
  5. I wish that I’d led a life true to my dreams and not what others expected of me.

Jane proposes that games can actually facilitate better relationship management, social interaction and even confidence boosters. Personally I think that the next generation can relate so well to games, that it is second nature for them to accept an imaginary framework to view their personal challenge.

She designed Superbetter to allow normal people to adopt a secret identity, complete small tasks or challenges that improves one’s confidence, practice their willpower and even train positive reinforcement and build a social support system. This helps them battle their own chosen obstacle such as cancer, terminal diseases or post-traumatic disorder. It became post-traumatic growth!

She then takes the same phenomenon to improve a person’s survival resilience, and made them the goal practices that are described here for you work on everyday:

  • Physical Resilience: Such as holding your hands above your head for 5 seconds, every moment your body is moving, you are improving your health.
  • Willpower Resilience: This could be as simple as snapping your fingers for 50 times which improves your brains determination
  • Emotional Resilience: Googling for an image of Baby _______ (type of favorite animal) which invokes powerful positive emotions.
  • Social Resilience: Text, email or facebook a quick thank you as appreciation to boost oxytocin in your bloodstream  (the trust hormone)

If you’ve just done these four simple actions. You’ve just gained 7 minutes of extra life. If you do this daily, you are statistically likely to live 10 years longer than you would have if you did nothing about it. On top of that, you will avoid having the top regrets of someone on the deathbed because you have been spending your time doing just the opposite.

 Cest Magnifique!