Toastmasters 1st Speech Ever

This is Royce here and I would like to announce that I have finally joined Toastmasters to go straight for the Gold title. I have been moving back and forth between Melbourne and Kuala Lumpur that I have not had the chance to commit myself to consistent club meetings and earn my title.

The time has now come to do so and I am very excited to prove myself.

The club that I have chosen is the TTDI Toastmasters which I have included the link to in the links section.

So the first speech that I will have to do ever, is known as the Icebreaker speech. It is interesting because technically any speech you do with a new crowd is an icebreaker speech. The hope here is that the audience immediately breaks their frosty attitudes towards you. I have yet to write up my actual speech and I will have to deliver it on the 4th of July.

This is the Manual of what I will need to do. = 

I’m Trying Not to Ruin the Wedding

Becoming a speaker at the wedding, as an emcee, a friend or a relative to the bride is always a nerve wrecking idea. You know that you are being entrusted with a role in the most important day of someone’s life.

We then begin to ask ourselves “Am I going to make a fool of myself? Can I do it?”

The thing is, we will always have our doubts, but we simply need to prepare before the event and when the time comes, speak from the heart.

I find that speeches like these are great when you start off on a humorous note, and then suitably move to a sincere and heartfelt note.

Here are my tips for the blogger:
Remember that silence is powerful if you are doing a sincere speech. If you are nervous, just keep your eyes in the general direction of your sister but look into your mind, play an image of yourself doing a great relaxed speech and imitate your imagination.

Here are some one liner jokes that you can get away with if it’s not funny since it doesnt take up much time:

I am so happy to have control over the 5 minutes that the (bride) didn’t plan…

They say a man is incomplete until he is married. After that, he is Finished.

They say Love is blind, but marriage is a real eye opener.

Pause filler:
The audience can sense it when you are nervous and uncomfortable. To stop yourself from babbling on, put your champagne or wine glass near you and take a sip to pause. then say ” I’ll be needing many refills today.”

Snotting black

My triplet sister’s wedding is in t-8 days and as the co-maid of honor, I will be speeching. Lord help us all.

In everyday interactions, most people expect very little from me. When I make any kind of joke, they are happy and will give me a laugh. But an audience has expectations. They expect me to be funny, charming, sincere, knowledgeable, sleepy, etc, and they demand their chuckle treats. This and any kind of expectation makes my nerve levels skyrocket.

When I have prepared and practiced for the engagement, it’s possible for everything to go smoothly. When I’m not prepared, however, and when the quotient between the audience’s expectations and my ability to perform is especially high, we’re diving head-on into the danger zone.

I often find myself fighting the temptation to stop speaking and let the entire room sink into silence. How long would they just sit there…

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Is strength your weakness?

Is strength your weakness?.

This is such an important idea because it is rarely considered by many. For example my mother is really good at off the cuff/impromptu speaking and she mainly relies on that. She tries to prepare sometimes but considers it unimportant as she can always come up with something new on the spot anyway. Often entertaining but off-topic.

I agree that it is important for us to be aware that over-relying on our strengths sometimes makes us complacent and creates the tortoise and the hare situation. If we cease to improve and rest on our laurels, we may end up the laggard.

Postcard from Penang

I just wanted to share this post because it shows such a beautiful side of Malaysian Heritage. I think it captures the rich traditions and culture in an actual sculpture. It is a wordless speech about how they used to live, a speech ‘seen’ by many generations after the creator has long since past. As humans we conform our surroundings to suit us, but we forget that our environments shapes us too. For example, the asian culture of having meals at a round table with dishes in the center and then individual rice bowls, making us predisposed to share our food. The artistry of the buildings interior can also depict cultural motifs like batik that comes from symbols that went along with legends and folktales; extending generational memory through the use of architecture.

We should appreciate the beauty we grew up in. Like Dorothy said after she took a long trip down a yellow brick road. There’s no place like home.


When my husband and I were working on post-tsunami reconstruction in Aceh, Indonesia in 2006-2007, we traveled to the nearby island of Penang, Malaysia for a little getaway and stayed in the picturesque Cheong Fatt Tze Mansion – originally built as a private residence in the late 1800’s by a Chinese merchant, it now serves as a home-stay for tourists. It is also a museum of sorts with on-going restoration work that has earned it many awards including a UNESCO Heritage Conservation Award. Among it’s many gorgeous architectural features, the rich indigo blue lime-wash that is used throughout the house makes it very distinctive and beautiful to photograph. Unfortunately, I was using a mediocre digital camera at the time and I’ve lost the original files since then so all I have left are smaller, less clear images that I’ve retrieved from my previous blog. Regardless, they are still timeless and…

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